Have to words ever held more meaning to anyone other then trust and respect?
If we had to break it down I would clearly have to say no. You cant have one without the other and you need both to have a thriving relationship with various degrees of people throughout your life.
Through a seemingly 3 Second search I found this information on Trust and its meaning:
In a social context, trust has several connotations. Definitions of trust typically refer to a situation characterised by the following aspects: One party (trustor) is willing to rely on the actions of another party (trustee); the situation is directed to the future. In addition, the trustor (voluntarily or forcedly) abandons control over the actions performed by the trustee. As a consequence, the trustor is uncertain about the outcome of the other's actions; he can only develop and evaluate expectations. The uncertainty involves the risk of failure or harm to the trustor if the trustee will not behave as desired.
Trust can be attributed to relationships between people. It can be demonstrated that humans have a natural disposition to trust and to judge trustworthiness that can be traced to the neurobiological structure and activity of a human brain, and can be altered e.g. by the application of oxytocin.
Conceptually, trust is also attributable to relationships within and between social groups (families, friends, communities, organisations, companies, nations etc.). It is a popular approach to frame the dynamics of inter-group and intra-group interactions in terms of trust.
So it can be seen that Trust is a rather risky business when you break it down. I have to trust someone and within that I place a small risk because I have no clear expectation as to what my trust int hat person will grow into. Its a Game of stocks and bonds except we gamble with more human things that are attached to us emotionally and mentally. We place our trust on the low end and we might not get a high reward but we are sure that it will turn out great small risk - small reward. But what about placing trust int he hands of something risky? The term is High Rick High Reward! If we are to place trust in this category then we can see that trust is a valued commodity. To trust another human being with your life is highest of risks while right behind that i think most can agree that Trusting someone with your heart is just as risky and can be damaging. Trust goes more then just with the heart , you sometimes need to trust your friends and co-workers to help you develop past certain events and things that might hinder you from a proper future. Being trustworthy is said to be a high honor and mark to achieve in life. Thus Being trusted means a bright light can be shone onto the individual and it also places a pressure on them to always be trustworthy regardless of what they feel on subjects, terms, and conditions that may arise. Trust also seems to focus on the events of the future. WE trust so that way our future is more secure and not random or left to chance. Risky as it may seem trust is a state of mind in which we feel that if we do this - this should occur. We have that ability (thought process) built into us naturally. Look at a Pack of wolves they trust each other it happens naturally and grows , even those who disrespect the pack can slowly gain back trust and it happens on its own terms.
Lets view something else now - Respect :
Respect is a positive feeling of esteem or deference for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected (e.g., "I have great respect for her judgment"). It can also be conduct in accord with a specific ethic of respect. Rude conduct is usually considered to indicate a lack of respect, disrespect, where as actions that honor somebody or something indicate respect. Specific ethics of respect are of fundamental importance to various cultures.
Respect is both given and received. We expect other people to respect us in return for the respect we show them. Respect is also something that is earned by the standards of the particular society in which one lives. Respect cannot be measured as a quantity, cannot be bought or traded, it is one of those things that is earned and built over time, but that can be lost with one stupid or inconsiderate act. One can ask or beg for respect, but only others can bestow us with respect as a result of their perceived treatment by us. Continued caring interactions are then required to maintain or increase that original earned respect. Respect cannot always be seen or observed by actions, but for those who practice chivalry, the outward display of respect is refreshing. Some women view this as patronizing and demeaning, but in its pure form chivalry is about nearly absolute respect.
Respect should not be confused with tolerance, since tolerance doesn't necessarily imply subordination to one's qualities but means treating as equal.
For respect it is something that can be given and Received at the same time between two people. It is seen from co-worker to co-worker , father and son, husband and wife, and boss to employee. Respect is something though that is shown differently throughout many cultures and many confuse it with fear. Again here comes just like trust respect is something that is an interaction between people that occurs through natural occurrences. If I choose to hold the door for someone it shows some form of respect toward them thus in kind that person may do the same to me. Respect seems to become then a treatment of how we perceive people. If we see them as mere dogs on the street then we would ignore them like the beggars on the street. Also it may seem physical appearance plays a crucial role in most societies. It would be seen to be disrespectful if we came dressed to work in shorts and a t-shirt (unless that is the norm) in an office setting. There are so many factors that control Respect it can be mind boggling. Status, appearance, value, chivalry , creed, love, family, ....the list goes on and on and the complexity of it is only overshadowed by the simplicity of how fast it can all disappear with one act of a terrible choice. Respect is hard to earn but once there it becomes a slippery slope in which we can tether off at any moment. It becomes our greatest challenge , treasure and poison all at one time.
As scary as this all may seem what can be seen is that these things are both perceived in different ways ... They aren't shown in the same light here as they would be in Japan or Africa. They change and become something much more then that they become what we need them to become. From person to person the definition I place here or thought s on it may be totally wrong. They may see respect as being feared, being treated like a god but those two things are not within my mind set I assure you. I hope by seeing this we can all see that through our life we need these two things and these interactions between others to shape our lives. We go around demanding other things but these two things Trust and Respect...they seem to scream the loudest when it comes to what helps us feel at ease and on another level. WE feel comforted and more of a welcomed aura among others. So let us Respect and Trust , Learn it or Re-learn it because without it how can we define our own well beings?
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